How to Feel Like You're in the Honeymoon Phase—No Matter How Long You've Been Together

In the honeymoon phase, the only time you look at your phone is when you're not together, and it's just to see if he's texted you yet. After a few years, technology can be a huge distraction. But it doesn't have to be like that. When you're super-busy, your phone can actually be your wingman. Send your S.O. flirty texts, risqué photos, and promises of what's to come when he gets home. "Keep it sexy, even if you feel too exhausted at the end of the day to frolic," says Love. "Fun is the name of the game. Keep it lively."

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Some people show they care with hugs and kisses, while others rely on the L-word. "People speak love languages—or the ways we show and feel love—in different ways," says Marla Zeiderman, Psy.D., licensed clinical psychologist at Kaiser Permanente in Colorado. And while you might have spent a lot of time making each other feel loved when you first got together, there's a solid chance that's fallen by the wayside over time.

So how can you get back on track? Have a conversation about the things he does that mean so much to you, whether that's kissing, holding hands, or cooking a meal together, says Zeiderman. Then, ask him what actions make him feel most loved. This way, you and your partner will know how to demonstrate how much you value each other, she says. This ultimately strengthens your bond.

The honeymoon phase is all about playfulness and being crazy-romantic with each other, so why let that go? Plan mini-honeymoons that regularly take you back to how your relationship felt in the beginning. "Mini-honeymoons don't require large investments of time or money," says Zeiderman. "They can include a round of mini-golf, sharing a triple-decker ice cream cone, exploring a new part of town, and even a pajama Saturday." Bonus: They'll remind you of what you originally found attractive about your partner and how great you are together. (Spice things up in the bedroom with these intimate organic products from the Women's Health Boutique.)

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"Anyone who has ever been in a relationship that did not last long after the honeymoon period can tell you that what was once cute and sexy can become immature and annoying after lots of time together," says Jill McDevitt, Ph.D., sexologist at Swiss Navy lubricants. The solution: Spend solo time with your friends and family, or just try to regularly do something you love alone, says McDevitt.

"Having alone time is very important because it gives you an identity outside of the relationship," she says. You'll have more to talk about without that feeling that you know all there is to know about each other. Put this strategy into action by designating time to do something alone at least once a week.

When it comes to gifts, it's the thought that counts, not the price tag. Leave quirky notes in his gym bag or make him his fave dinner. The time and intention you put into these random acts of kindness will reignite the passion and memories of when you first got together, says Love.

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"Almost a decade into my relationship, after the initial honeymoon phase ended, the thing that got me most excited about my partner was seeing his baby pictures for the first time," says McDevitt. "He was such a cute kid, and we bonded over him telling me some of his childhood memories." When you've been in love with someone for a long time, old photos remind you that they had a whole life before they met you. That can make you feel like there's so much more to learn about them—and so much more to love.

If you're not spending enough time alone together, then you aren't evolving as a couple. And growing together is crucial for maintaining those warm and fuzzy feelings over time. "Spending time together helps ensure you're continuing to learn about the new person your partner is becoming every day," says McDevitt. "That primes your relationship for more honeymoon phases to come."

This doesn't mean that you two need to spend an entire weekend glued at the hip. Just set aside time once a week to do something fun together. Maybe that's catching up on your favorite Netflix show, going to a movie, or hitting up the driving range. The important thing is that you're catching up and discovering more about who your partner is as a person.