My midlife crisis: the bestselling author Claire Dederer wants to have an affair and relive a wild-child past

This exclusive extract from her new memoir lifts the lid on the female midlife crisis

ILLUSTRATION BY GARRY WALTON
The Sunday Times

You did everything right! You got a job. You found a mate, a really nice one, you bought a house and had kids. You worked hard. You were a faithful wife and an above-average mum. You accumulated this life over a decade, maybe two. Like the nest of a bowerbird, it all piled up because you are the kind of person who gets what she wants. You moved from the city to the country, which is really just the picturesque suburbs. The schools were terrific. The house you bought was a bit bigger. You mostly forgot about the girl you were.

You conjured her at parties with new friends, parents from your kids’ school who laughed, politely, at your crazy stories. You woke up embarrassed